When you became a parent, you likely never thought about what it would be like to act as a co-parent to your child with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. Yet, here you are, in the middle of a divorce trying to create a new life for yourself and your child in Florida.
To help with this transition, HelpGuide offers insights on how to be a successful co-parent. Use these tips to maintain your sanity and protect your child’s interests.
Learn how to communicate
Just as you may have had to adjust your communication style when you and your ex first met, you may need to do the same again now that you have divorced. Specifically, it is a good idea to concentrate all dialogue (written and spoken) through the lens of what most benefits your kids. Handling all conversations with a business mindset may help you keep your cool and maintain your focus.
Remove your emotions from the equation
There may be lingering animosity between you and your spouse, which could sully all future interactions between the two of you. If this is the case, have an honest conversation with yourself about how your remaining anger, jealousy or any other negative emotion may jeopardize your co-parenting abilities. This is not to say that you cannot harbor anger or frustration toward your former spouse, just that you owe it to your kids to work out your emotions elsewhere.
Try to operate in synchronicity with the other parent
Usually, it benefits kids to grow up with structure and stability. That is why you and the other parent should consider working together to ensure the rules, schedule and methods of discipline are similar no matter which house your kids are in.
Do your part to keep your child’s spirits up during this tough time. Mastering the art of co-parenting benefits everyone involved.